the biggest mistake i discovered in the higher education system
is that they do not emphasize about effective human communication.
i have been working in the corporate world for a number of years and
i have met a lot of people from all walks of life and from different
education background. i am here to emphasize that the moment we
wake up and until we call it a day, we can never avoid communicating
with other people; whether via face2face, phone call, email, internet
messaging, etc.

i came upon many people who have very good academic background
but when i "just talk" to them, i can conclude that all he knows are;
all he learns in school. PERIOD. i am of course, not an expert nor with
a PhD in psychology but we all need to understand some basic effective
communication.

we need to learn on;
what to communicate(subjects),
when to communicate(time),
whom to communicate(people), and
how to communicate(body language, tone of voice, hand gestures, etc).

'communicate' can be substitute with speak, talk, discuss, negotiate,
confirm, assure, compromise, report, announce, share, etc

when cracking a joke, say it's a joke. do not ever assume. first of all, do u think
you are a good joke cracker? if it's a no, people might be offended. and when
people are offended, you are a plain bad joke cracker. well, believe me, it
takes tremendous skills to be a great joke cracker. as a matter of fact,
u could never earn a PhD thru a university but instead, it's through your life.

and also, there are many occasions where people just can't seemed to know
how to say.... NO. in addition, effective communication also consists of
linking your thoughts and your mouth. more important, addressing an issue.
to me, addressing an issue is part of a learning curve.

so.... what can be done to learn more about effective human communication?

1st step.
observe how people who have more experience in life do it.

2nd step.
be humble and be honest when seeking advice.

3rd step.
practise makes perfect.

4th step.
learn from your mistakes.

5th step.
find a mentor.