It is very healthy just to accept our feelings for what they are,
rather than analyzing them endlessly. Feelings don't always
need a reason.

We allow the people we love into our inner world thru communications.
They cannot read a book about your inner life and they can't take
a tour. You have to tell them about it.

Imagine taking a blind person to an art gallery and trying to describe
each work of art. You must describe the art in ways a blind person
can understand.

We need to describe our inner world to the people with whom we are
in a relationship. Sharing our feelings with another person can be a
powerful release.

Sharing how we feel and the reasons we feel that way, or sharing how we
feel even though we don't know why we feel that way, is very healthy
physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spirituality.

Expressing how we feel helps those around us to know us. It is this
knowledge of each other, gathered in the tiniest portions along the way,
that gives rise to intimacy; to knowing and being known.


Matthew Kelly, the Seven Levels of Intimacy, pg 194 & 195.