all of us needed to have friends throughout our lives.
the relationships we have are all unique since we approached
those relationships differently. when we talk to our parents,
we speak differently. when we talk to our brothers and sisters, we
talk differently. when we talk to our boss, we communicate
differently. when we speak to our friends, we use other ways.

all of those relationships are unique and we need to understand that
we can be friends too with our parents. we can be friends with our
brothers and sisters and we can even be friends to our spouses.

why is friendship important? why do we need friendship? we need
more than cousins; we need more than relatives; we need more than
spouses, etc. we need people to listen to us. we need friends to share
with us their lives. we need friends to console us. we need friends to
chill out and talk craps. they also need us to listen to them. they also
want us to share their lives. they want to be console by us and they want
to chill out with us.

everyone out there is unique and everyone has a way to talk to us,
to listen to us, to laugh with us, to cry with us, to get drunk with us, etc.
one thing we need to understand is all of us are not perfect. some friends
will not be a good listener, some friends may not be able to speak very
well, some folks will not be able to run 13miles with us, some buddies will
not be able to eat beef with us, etc.... must we discriminate them?????

since everyone is special, it's difficult to find someone who will
complement our needs 100%. here is the thing; if everyone complements
us, then we will never be able to learn to improve ourselves. there are
a lot of times where we needed to fine tune our primary & secondary values.

everyone has their primary values and secondary values.
primary values could be; i think the cow is sacred since they eat only grass
and they provide us milk, leather, meat, etc. that is why i do not eat beef.
secondary values could be; i go to work at 10am in order to avoid the
traffic jam and i leave at 7pm.

we cannot change the world to accomodate our needs but we can improve
ourselves to accomodate the world.

we cannot change our friends to accomodate us but we can improve
ourselves to accomodate our friends.

how far are we willing to go? are we giving them a chance to get to know
us better? are we giving ourselves an opportunity to get to know them
better? are we willingly to put aside all their weaknesses? are we willingly
to lower our shields? most important, shall we forgive them?

there are a lot of people out there who wanted to be friends with
us, do u know? there are tens of people who wanted to speak like us,
do u know? there are hundreds of people out there who wanted to
listen to us, do u know? there are thousands of people out there who
wanted to get to know us better, do u know? there are millions of people
out there who wanted us to greet, how are you?, do u know?

did we try?
did we really try?
did we really really try?
did we really really really try?

are we making excuses after excuses?